I like this guy. I really do. But being with him comes with a kind of tension I didn\u2019t expect\u2014because he\u2019s unfiltered. Too unfiltered. The way he talks about me, about us, about our private moments\u2026 sometimes it feels like there\u2019s no line at all. Things we\u2019ve shared in intimacy, things I trusted him with, get thrown into stories or conversations that feel inappropriate, careless, or just\u2026 wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s jarring. It makes me question what\u2019s safe to share with him, and what even exists as \u201cours.\u201d One minute, he\u2019s playful and affectionate, and I feel connected. The next, he\u2019s oversharing details that I thought were private, exposing bits of our intimacy to others in ways that make me cringe\u2014and sometimes, hurt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I catch myself holding back, second-guessing what I say, what I show, because I never know when it\u2019ll end up somewhere it shouldn\u2019t. And I hate that I have to do that\u2014because I like<\/em> him. I want<\/em> to be open. I want<\/em> to trust. But the unpredictability of what he chooses to share keeps me on edge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s exhausting to feel like I can\u2019t trust my own words, my own intimacy, because he doesn\u2019t seem to have a filter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m learning to navigate it, slowly:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Liking someone who can\u2019t\u2014or won\u2019t\u2014filter themselves is messy, and damn, its hard. It\u2019s thrilling at times, yes, but it\u2019s also a minefield. I can\u2019t control what he says, but I can<\/em> control what I accept, what I protect, and how I honor the private parts of myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And the truth is, the unpredictability isn\u2019t just about timing or moods\u2014it\u2019s about respect. His words reveal boundaries he hasn\u2019t set for himself, and I\u2019m left deciding which ones I can live with\u2014and which ones I can\u2019t. Because it\u2019s one thing to be unpredictable. It\u2019s another to make the private parts of our life public without a thought.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I like this guy. I really do. But being with him comes with a kind of tension I didn\u2019t expect\u2014because he\u2019s unfiltered. Too unfiltered. The way he talks about me, about us, about our private moments\u2026 sometimes it feels like there\u2019s no line at all. Things we\u2019ve shared in intimacy, things I trusted him with, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-275","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-relationship-health"],"yoast_head":"\n\n